Once I read “if it is romantic, it isn’t love” and that quote can be true in most of relationships and I’m sure that they are also some exceptions.
I don’t know why but there’s some kind of evil force in the world that makes some people become psychopaths and narcissistics and I’m totally sure you know what I mean specially if you have seen Fifty Shades of Grey or Fifty Shades Darker. It’s sad but true this type of people overwhelmed you with “love”, details and affection and suddenly they disappear.
You feel anxious and confused. You just justify every single thing they do: “He has so many childhood problems”, “His ex girlfriend were so crazy”… bla, bla, bla Nothing could justify that he isn’t making you feel good. Isn’t it the “purpose” of every relationship? to make you feel happier?
As almost every woman in this world I had my own Christian Grey and honestly I thought he was the best thing that happened to me, but I was sad. Every day, every hour, every year. I felt like I wasn’t good enough for him, I couldn’t understand why he couldn’t love me back, I thought that I was the problem.
Then, when anxiety became stronger I decided I was going to love myself. So I started to make tons and tons of affirmations, I wrote “I love me, I deserve to be loved” and many other things and voila! Almost a year later magic happened, now I understand more than ever why you shouldn’t ever choose “unavailable men”.
I don’t know what will happen in three months, a year or 5 years but I can tell you that in this world there are people who truly know how to love, who respect you, who surprise you, who give you all they got. Yes, there are romantic relationship that can turn into fairytales, but good ones. The ones who make you smile every day, the ones who make you a better person. So never, ever be with someone who treats you bad and LOVE YOURSELF.